Ep. 01: Creating and Communicating Values-Based Boundaries with Angelica Ross


Welcome to the very first episode of the Permission to Pivot Podcast! 🎉

Man, I've been waiting far too long for this moment. Thank you so much for tuning in.

When I decided to start the podcast, I knew immediately who my first guest needed to be. Seeing as I was the very first guest on her podcast, it only made natural sense to bring her on, but it’s for many other reasons, too.

Angelica Ross is a fearless content creator, copywriter, and marketing expert, and she also happens to be one of my dearest friends. She’s my local business bestie and go-to gal for all things creativity, blogging, style, beauty, food, and beer. Angelica and I learn a lot from each other and often feel our conversations should be recorded so that we can capture the truth bombs we drop left and right. So we finally decided to do it!

In true Marissa and Angelica fashion, we manage to kick off the episode with some awesome life-hacks from Angelica, including a quick and easy bowl of cheesy goodness you must make and a cheaper way to buy rugs. You’re welcome.

But on to the real heart of the episode: Boundaries.

What feelings, thoughts, or even physical reactions do you get when you hear that word?

In this episode, we talk about:

  • The connotations that the word “boundaries” can elicit and how to find softness around it

  • The many benefits boundaries provide, including helping with decision-making and casting intentional yeses for the things that matter most to you

  • How to gently communicate your boundaries to those around you

  • The underlying fears behind people-pleasing

  • How to honor both individuals’ values and keep your boundaries in relationships

  • Figuring out your real values, not just what you think you’re supposed to care about or one that’s based out of fear

  • A practical call-to-action for figuring out your boundaries in the first place

And tons more juicy conversation! There’s also a side tangent on authenticity that I have a feeling justtttt might resonate with some of you.

Resources Mentioned:

  • The One Thing by Gary W. Keller and Jay Papasan

  • Essentialism by Greg McKeown
  • Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin
  • Real Talk Radio with Nicole Antoinette
  • "How to be an Amazing Influencer Like Me"
  • The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte
  • People Over Profit by Dale Partridge
  • Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
  • Yes, Please by Amy Poehler
  • We’ll All Be Dead and None of This Will Matter by Scaachi Koul
  • "How Boundaries Create Freedom and Ease

You can’t create in a vacuum. When people are doing all of this work and pushing and pushing, there’s no time to replenish. You can’t get any further when your car is out of gas. - Angelica Ross
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A boundary is something that allows me to know where my values are and to figure out where I want to give my time. It allows me to give an intentional yes or intentional no. It’s a guideline for living. -Angelica Ross
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You can’t base your present happiness on what *may* happen in the future. -Angelica Ross
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We often feel, especially as women, that we need to qualify our statements and to explain why, especially when it’s a 'No.' But with boundaries, you don’t need to have a justification for it. 'No' is a complete sentence. -Marissa Burdett
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Know the values and boundaries of the people around you. And if you don’t know? Ask. ‘What’s important to you? How do you like to feel love? How do you want our friendship to look?'
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 photo by Nathan J Shaulis / Porter Loves Creative   www.porterlovescreative.com

About the Guest

Angelica Ross is a content creator who writes copy for fearless women entrepreneurs. She’s a storyteller by nature and loves finding the right words that connect with an audience.

She loves collaborating and brainstorming. Getting ideas flowing by talking them out is the best way to come up with creative, interesting gems.

Angelica believes in the power of a new notebook, the healing properties of cinnamon rolls, and that she’s four people according to the serving size of most recipes.