Ep. 05: Rewriting Your Identity with Douglas Humphries


Resources Mentioned:

  • The Modern Austen

  • #createlounge

  • The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, and Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown

  • Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

  • The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte

For an episode on rewriting your identity, it felt only natural to bring on a guest whose own identity journey has been openly, courageously and creatively captured through writing and speaking over the last few years.

Douglas Humphries, writer, blogger, voice actor, and facilitator of #createlounge, shares his wisdom around how to tackle some of those big life questions that seem to come up in these formative adult years (and beyond), like “Who am I?” “What am I supposed to be doing with my life?” and “How do I want to spend my time?” and shares some of his journey of how his own identity has changed from a “good, responsible kid” to a somewhat rebellious risk-taker and is continually evolving over time.

    In this episode, we talk about:

    • Defining the word “identity” and what shapes it
    • How changing our environment can be indicative of a change in our identities
    • Realizing that you can change your identity and that you have so many more options than you can imagine
    • Renegotiating inherited identity traits and deciding what really matters to you
    • Moments that spark those big life questions
    • Questioning our systems and beliefs and showing self-compassion and grace for the shame around old beliefs we are choosing to let go of
    • Reconciling who we thought we would be with the person we really are
    • Permission to explore opportunities and choices without it immediately defining you
    • How others relate to the new iteration of who you are
    • How our creative journeys reflected our changing identities
    • The “Reluctant Rebels” Club for polite, highly-intuitive risk-taskers ;)
    • Resources for uncovering our personal identities
    • Being inspired by others, but being careful about adopting beliefs and values that aren’t actually ours

    We have this fear that if we start to question things, everything will fall apart. But really good systems and belief can stand being questioned. It’s the "bad" ones that you don’t want to question because you know they’ll fall apart. - Douglas Humphries
    Click to Tweet

    I think one of the biggest things about the journey is accepting that who we are now is fine for now and there’s such freedom in that.
    - Douglas Humphries
    Click to Tweet

    We may not know why right now we’re doing the thing we’re doing, but later on you’ll know exactly why. You have to trust that you already are planting the seeds for that future. 
    - Marissa Burdett
    Click to Tweet
    Wherever you find yourself in the journey, you’re okay. - Douglas Humphries
    Click to Tweet


    About the Guest

    Douglas Humphries is a writer, blogger, and all-around creative currently living in St. Paul, MN. Douglas's passion is stories, his own and yours, and when he's not working on his latest books, including an upcoming project with Fables & Fauna, he is running #CreateLounge, a community and twitter chat for creatives of every background to come together and learn and encourage one another. Douglas is the author of "Fire In My Bones" a personal memoir/journey through the book of Jeremiah, and anyone who's known him for more than 5 minutes knows that NaNoWriMo is his passion. You can find Douglas online at DouglasHumphries.com and @Douglas_AmongUs on Twitter and Instagram.